I can die happy.

I have finally figured out how to put the live version of "Where the Streets Have No Name" from Rattle and Hum on my iPod. So I can watch it Whenever. I. Want. 


Just in case anyone else wants to pull crazy things from YouTube? I used youconvertit.com.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

I've done a good job this week of unintentionally alienating my friends. 


I think some of it is that my neck has me in constant low-level pain, so I'm sure I'm not thinking as clearly as usual. 

Case One: Inadvertently rubbed salt in wound of acquaintance. That at least was completely unknowing, I mean, I couldn't have known, but then when I sent her an e-mail to try and repair the damage, I think I made it worse. I.feel.horrible.

Case Two: Was apparently so difficult this week I finally drove one of my best friends to snark at me. Oh dear. 

Case Three: OK, can't remember three. But I'm sure I did something.

I hate weeks like this.

Smorgasbord

1. Radiohead (the real thing, not cover bands) now on iTunes. It's just 'Best of,' but still. 

2. And then there's that whole Obama thing. Finally, some CLOSURE, people. 

3. My first husband found me on Facebook. I knew he'd been on there for a while (we went to college together, so he was in our class listing) but then a mutual friend 'friended' us and he sent me a friend request. 

And i was like, 'Well, why the hell not?' He feels more like an old boyfriend than an old ... spouse (*cringe*), so fine.

We e-mailed a couple of times, just family stuff, like how old are the kids, where are you living, etc., and then he made a snarky comment about the HH, and I was like, OK, we're done here. 

And the more I think about it, the more weirded out I am about it. Especially because when I was shamelessly looking at his profile, I discovered that his (current) wife is GORGEOUS. 

It's more a commentary on how small the wired life is. I can track down anyone I want to, pretty much, in less than five minutes. I'll more than likely be able to figure out where they went to school, whether or not they're married, what they do for a living. 

I'm not sure it should be that easy.

4. I'm continuing my odd affection for 'Deadliest Catch' and I'm deeply in TV love with Season Four's Eric Nyhammer:

2007 copyright Corey Arnold
photo 2007 copyright Corey Arnold

Yeah, I know, Eric's got a family. That's fine. I just want to watch his profile on the Discovery Channel marathons, all hipster glasses and curly hair. He's like a grad student plopped down in the middle of the Bering Sea.

5. I hacked back my bougainvillea today. It was turning into Audrey II from Little Shop of Horrors. But it bit back and i have scratches all up and down my arms. While I was trimming, one of my neighbors walked by and said, "Oh, I'm so glad you're trimming that. It really needed it." Wtf? 

I live in a little complex of townhouses, and while the main grounds are maintained by gardeners, we're each responsible for our own little front plots. They vary from bare patches of packed dirt to carefully cultivated mini-gardens. Most of them are in various stages of benign neglect. I trim mine back when it gets aggressive, but it's not like it ever gets disreputable. 

So I'm standing there in the 100-degree heat, and getting progressively more pissed off. I work hard! I'm a single mom! I've got three dogs I clean up after responsibly! I pay my HOA dues on time! 

W.
T.
F.
?

Then I remember I've seen this woman out first thing every morning, with a broom, sweeping out her carport. 

And then I remember my sister told me about one morning when she was driving up our little street and the woman was out, mid-morning, in her nightgown, in the middle of the street, sweeping it. The street. Our essentially spotless, glorified-driveway street. She wouldn't get out of the way of my sister's car. My sister had to wait until Miss OCD was finished sterilizing the drive.

Then I remember yesterday when I was coming home and she was out in her carport, sweeping miniscule bits of dust into the street. Then she PICKED UP THE END OF THE (spotless) BROOM AND PICKED A LEAF OUT OF IT. That she then carried off of her property and to the communal property opposite her unit. Where she bent over and placed it next to a tree. 

People are crazy. But then, some people are just ... well:

(photo 2007 copyright Corey Arnold)
photo 2007 copyright Corey Arnold

Hi Eric. I'm over here. *waves.* If you need a break from the Frozen North, you and your wife and two kids are welcome down here for a visit.

OK, OK, I've got it.

You'll note that the past couple of weeks I've been ... restive.  (So different from my usual beatific state, I know.)

And I've finally (finally!) figured out that when I get like this, all EVERYTHINGMUSTCHANGERIGHTNOW! NOWNOWNOW! NO I DON'T KNOW WHAT OR HOW! BUT CHANGE! CHANGE! that I have no idea what I want. I'm beginning to think of it as Anywhere-but-here-itis. Hate where I am, but have no idea where (realistically) I'd rather be.

Last week? When I was all itchy from increasingly obvious information about the HH's girlfriend? ABH-itis. And as usual, I get all HET UP (I love that phrase) and then something happens to make me realize that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.

Today was the last (God willing) of the birthday parties. And as much as I hate them for the breaking-up-the-weekend factor, I really do like all the parents, and when I'm feeling all sorry for myself and disenfranchised (this is not my beautiful house! this is not my beautiful wife!) these parties almost always pull me out of it, and today was no different. I leave these shindigs feeling grateful for these friends, for this huge group of people my daughter and I are part of.

When life is IRKING me, I have always felt that I was supposed to DO something. It's my life, go fix it

And really, I need to learn the lesson to BE THE KELP. Change comes on its own, my job isn't to make the change, but to be the kelp and let my action be how I deal with the change instead of creating the change so i don't have to deal with the emotion. (Why yes, I was in therapy for several years, why do you ask?)

So this week: Itchy from HH moving on. But also? Reminded almost every day how lucky I am to be where I am. 

I know, I wouldn't have believed it if i hadn't seen it with my own eyes.

I went on a blind date tonight. Well.semi-blind. An extremely myopic date? A legally blind date? A good friend of mine and her husband took us out to dinner under the guise of celebration, but really so they could rake him over the coals and decide if he's good enough for me. I love good friends. 

Whatever, anyway. Smart, funny, tall, cute. No love connection, I don't think, but just knowing that men like this exist and reside in the Phoenix metro area is a hopeful sign.

In other news, my Mac is suddenly acting very slow and strange and I'm worried.

In still other news, my neck is getting worse and worse. Physical therapy starts next Wednesday and it can't come soon enough.

Oh, and also, we were at Another Birthday Party today, at a little amusement park, and the Wee One, my shy Wee One, rode the kiddie roller coaster. Without me. I almost had palpitations, but she had a blast. Score one for getting out of the way and letting her have a good time.

Things I'm enjoying lately

  • Goofy humor
  • Some of my witty co-workers
  • My dog Bea
  • The Wee One's incredible maturity these days
  • The Wee One's equally incredible enjoyment of tickling these days
  • My new ipod pink nano
  • iGoogle's NYT crossword gadget
  • My new healthcare providers (herniated disc with pinched nerve: bad. awesome care: good.)
  • So You Think You Can Dance, season 4 
  • the countdown to the new David Sedaris book release 


Two years = Lifetime

A post from late May 2006:

The HH sent a letter from his lawyer to my lawyer saying that he didn't want to answer the questions in the interrogatories because he thought we were going to get back together.

AND that i should drop the suit because (you'll love this) 1. we had "expressed mutual affection for each other" (i think that's attorney-speak for Our Clients Slept Together) and had 2. planned a two-week family vacation in Laguna Beach.

Sigh.

If we were going to get back together, talking about it through the lawyers doesn't seem to be the way to do it.

I agree that we did talk last week, and i know he wants to stay together. And I also agree that we slept together. But while that would have fixed everything about four years ago, now? I don't think so. I'm not saying we can't talk, but jeez.

Yeah. OVER the girlfriend. Onward!

I have begun to hate the internet.

Crazy Town.


I've officially lost my mind. Can't talk about it yet. 

But in other news, when I was little, probably 10 or 11, I spent a few weeks or so Trying To Be Good. I was patient with my little sisters, I said my prayers at night, i tried to be helpful to my mom. 

After a time of Being Good, I noticed that there was no real ~bonus~ for being good. No one said, "Wow, you're really helpful." or "Gee, what's with the saintliness?"

I was getting really frustrated with that lack of recognition so I finally sidled up to my mom and asked her (in all my 10-year-old subtlety) if she had noticed anything different about me lately.

"No," she said, not looking up from making dinner. "Should I?" 

I was crushed. Not that any of it was my mom's fault, I mean, really, I wasn't so bad ~before~ trying to Be Good. It's not like I was shoplifting or smoking behind the school. 

The only thing I can remember doing that I wasn't supposed to do was going into the liquor store to buy candy at the local strip mall (I was allowed to walk to the strip mall with a friend, but I wasn't supposed to go into that store. But they had the best candy. Bubble-gum hamburgers!).

Clearly, the concept of original sin didn't sit lightly with me. 

But looking back on it, I didn't think, "Oh really, what's so bad about me to begin with?" I thought "Well, what's the point? I'll go back to bank-robbing and tripping little old ladies." Incorrigible, obviously.

It hurts a little, but mostly it's hysterically funny.

I've known for awhile that the HH has a girlfriend. 

(Out of sympathy for the erstwhile girlfriend, i will not call her names. After all, she has ~no idea~ what she's gotten herself into. Unless of course they met ~because~ of the HH's unfortunate addiction to mud-wrestling porn rather than in spite of it.)

So, the Wee One comes home today from a visit, and says that 'Daddy is always talking about his friend.' 

I know where this is going, and just want to make sure he's keeping his end of the bargain about telling me before he introduces the Wee One to any romantic interests, so I ask if she's met the friend. 

'No, but he never stops talking about her. Her name is Donna. Donna, Donna, Donna.' [big frustrated sigh with bonus eye roll]

TOO funny. 

I will admit to a bit of vertigo at the news that the inflicter of rug burns actually has a name, but then i'm quickly reminded of why we couldn't stay married (see: Article I. Inability to Act as If Parenting Had Anything to Do With Him and Article II. Abiding Affection for Hidden, Extensive Use of Porn), and I feel much better, despite still wanting to leave the country and live Anywhere But Here.


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